Failure is Beneficial

In life, winning is the common goal in any industry.

“Win, Win is the outcome that we are pushed to achieving in society. In athleticism players win and it benefits the coach, coaches win and it benefits the system. However, loosing will always be the product of a successful system. Many people prepare for wins but rarely prepare for loss. It appears as an oxymoron to prepare for a loss. Suggesting that we should prepare for a loss can be perceived as negative. Our perspective on failure can determine how we advance after experiencing loss. Losing is a painful and emotional experience. We fear losing because of how system classifies losers. However, a healthy approach to failure is being able to see the benefits that failure provide.

Failure can operate as a mechanical lens that helps you see things beyond the naked eye about yourself. Another benefit of failure is the courtesy given through failed attempts to reinforce your belief and self-determination about winning. People who quit are not built to win. People who are determined to win perceive failure to become a classroom for self-improvement. Disappointment doesn’t last long amongst people who are driven to win.

In competition, someone has to loose. Failure shows up in every area of life. This is because much of life is competition driven. People are apt to experiencing failure in one place or another. Anyone who doesn’t apply a healthy approach to failure could make themselves available to psychological deficiencies and/or emotional disturbances. The ultimate benefit of failure is the provision to see our own weaknesses. This benefit will make anyone stronger. Adopting a discipline of resilience can demonstrate one accepting the reality of failure. Accepting the reality should translate into motivation to never fail again. Learn to use failure to your advantage and not your deficit.

Leading from the Rear

Leadership is a topic that never grow old. It is a topic that is iconic, relevant and futuristic.

New leaders and leadership models are being born at a rapid rate, so much so, that traditional values related to leadership can be considered antiquated.

Leadership models today are easily ousted my newer models adopted by more important people or people who are more successful than the last person. Dr. Cornel West, in Race Matters, says, leadership comes from the embedded traditions that shaped talented and gift persons.

Leading from the rear is a concept that operates as a bridge for the past and a spring board for the future. The bridge that is created by this type of leadership, this displays a leader’s cognitive notion that leaders existed before him/her. Leaders should embrace the communities and systems that are essential in their leadership traits. These elements are just as important as new doors and new opportunities.

One of the most common places to witness one leading from the rear is in a military cadence formation. Leading from the rear provides visional alignment with those who are being led. This concept does not imply in order for one to lead from the rear, one must be willing to do the duties of those in the rear. No, this concept suggests that one should have just as much concern, compassion and interest for those in the rear as they do for those in front. It is too often that modern leadership focuses on small circles, however leading from the rear could provide longevity within a company or organization. Anytime the attention and focus is only on high achieving people, it means that the system is only as good as the high achieving people. Therefore, leading from the rear keeps the attention on the entire system and provides care to the total system rather than a few good men.


Keep it Real…


Relationship Tip: Love is wonderful but love is not always happy. Spending days trying to make your relationship picture perfect could lead to a phony relationship. The real picture can’t be photographed.

The Truth About Branding




Matching Your Image And Message

There are many who are investing thousands of dollars into this term”Branding”. People are trying to “Brand” themselves, ministries, families, etc. However, “Branding” is ludacris if you don’t understand or know the definition of “Marketing.” Social Media has made everyone stars…. We must give everyone cudos for their efforts. Don’t be fooled by branding if you fail at marketing. Inclusive of the same thought, don’t be celebrated for your “Brand” and flunk at leaving a “Legacy.” Rule of thumb, marketing 101… Word of Mouth still remains the “top most essential element” as fuel for being noticed, recognized, and promoted. Insure, your image match your message. What is important, is not where you go and how often you go, but it is what ‘people’ say when you LEAVE. An image can always be created but content is something that you must invest yourself in…..

Corridors of Progress




Life Tip:

Has anyone told you: abandonment, rejection, restructuring are repetitive is the corridors of your process. You will experience this many times before becoming… accept the elements of the process and keep on moving.

Blended Families


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Relationship Tip: Blended families take time and work. Spend time building trust in each other. Just because a person is not their biological parent does not mean that they cannot help instill values, morals, ethics, and responsibility. Trust builds as you become co-dependent on each other. FEAR will always destroy trust.



Watch your connections: If your connection(s) are afraid, disgusted, and humiliated by your greatest weakness then you need a stronger connection. Find someone that speak volume to your destiny and you will be focused on being stronger and not popular. #dropsmic Pastor Roe